Seven Ways in Seven Days – Practical Prayers for Missionaries :: Relationships/Conflicts

Day 6: Missionary Relationships/Conflicts

"Peacemakers are people who breathe grace. They draw continually on the goodness and power of Jesus Christ and then bring his love, mercy, forgiveness, strength, and wisdom to the conflicts of daily life.” Ken Sande

Where there are relationships, there are conflicts. Our first example of conflict on the mission field begins with the apostle Paul. Biographical reading of missionaries like Carey, Livingstone, and Taylor – to name a few – all reveal conflicts in their relationships. This topic, therefore, is a worthy one for which to pray over the missionaries you know.

With whom might missionaries have conflicts?

1. Their sending organization (the mission board). This may be for reasons such as lack of pastoral care, lack of decentralization (decision making only at top ranks or home office), insufficient training, mishandling of crises, or lack of being heard in difficult situations.

4. National church. Most obvious here would include cultural differences in thought, judgment, and basic values. Policies, finances, and job descriptions (expectations) also are ingredients for conflict.e (office) is in their home, and the couple spends more time together.

3. Other missionaries. Personality differences, trust issues, jealousy, being overly dogmatic, inferiority, differences in vision (goals), or other sensitive issues can cause rifts between coworkers or colleagues.

4. National church. Most obvious here would include cultural differences in thought, judgement, and basic values. Policies, finances, and job descriptions (expectations) also are ingredients for conflict.

How to pray for missionary relationships:

  1. That there would be mutual respect and trust with all the relationships mentioned above.

  2. That each one would pray for the other BEFORE conflict arises, or pray sincerely and humbly for the one with whom conflict has arisen.

  3. That the missionary would submit to Christ-like character formation through the conflict.

  4. That the missionary would ask for and grant forgiveness.

  5. For open communication between both parties.

  6. That the missionary would be a peacemaker.

  7. That the missionary’s goal would be to seek reconciliation versus “winning” the conflict.

Let’s Pray:

Gracious Father, today I pray for ____________________  and their various relationships on the field. Please let there be mutual respect and trust between ____________________ and their family, colleagues, the national church, and the home office. Prompt  ____________________  to pray for the people in those relationships, knowing that you miraculously soften the heart of an intercessor toward the one for whom they are praying. I don’t know today what conflicts  _________________________ may be dealing with, but I ask that your Holy Spirit intervene and bring conviction and resolution. May  ____________________ humble themselves to pray sincerely for any with whomthey may be quarreling.  Holy Spirit, encourage ____________________ to submit to your formation of Christ-like character through the conflict, humbling themself to ask for and grant forgiveness. Give  ____________________ the ability to communicate well with whom the offense has occurred. May his/her desire be to pursue peace and to breathe grace. Above all, may Your name be glorified as  ____________________ seeks reconciliation of the relationship versus having to be proven right.  Free them, Lord, to allow your Spirit to flow unobstructed and powerfully as they work in your harvest. Amen.


Seven Ways in Seven Days – How to Pray Practically for Missionaries Series:

Day 1 Missionary Marriage

Day 2 MKs

Day 3 Cross Cultural Adaptation

Day 4 Their Personal Life

Day 5: Their Ministry

Day 6: Relationships/Conflicts

Day 7: Spiritual Warfare